What would you do if you couldn’t have children naturally?
By Amanda Ripsam as told from kim owner of Miss Mental
Hello friends meet my friend kim.
Kim and I chatted via Facebook for this meet and greet blog post
I asked Kim to describe her experience trying IVF
It all started three years ago, I was a 24-year-old girl and my boyfriend, and I decided to have children, or that's how we thought about it. Most of our friends already had kids or were pregnant, so we thought we wouldn't be far behind.
So I went to the doctor and told him about my pregnancy wish, He took my IUD out and told me to take vitamin D & folic acid. The following year we kept trying every month, but the only thing that followed was disappointment.
The moment we realized that you couldn't just 'choose' to have a baby was hard on us. What followed was a lengthy and time-consuming process.
The first time we went to the OB-gyn we were both tested for STD's. They did several other blood tests and an internal echo of my uterus. The doctor also examined my boyfriend's sperm.
A few weeks later we heard the results. My boyfriend's sperm count was too low for a natural pregnancy. They ran some tests to see if anything was causing it, but they never found a reason. From that moment we knew we had to do IVF, or in our case ICSI, it's the same procedure but the lab process is a little different.
With IVF they mix the egg and sperm in the lab, and the sperm naturally penetrates the egg. With ICSI they inject the sperm in the egg, this method is used when the quantity or quality of the sperm is low.
Before you can start an IVF procedure, they run many tests. The doctor didn't see any weird things during my echo, but she wanted to make sure everything was ok before I started. She did a laparoscopic operation to see if my ovaries are open, this was the case. However, she found endometriosis on my uterus. The doctor removed the spots with the hope that I would easier get pregnant during IVF.
I had to recover six weeks before I could continue with the IVF procedure.
The next appointment was with the IVF nurses. They did an internal echo to see how many eggs my body approximately makes. You usually have one egg that rips during your cycle, and the other eggs die, but during IVF you want to have as many eggs as possible ripping. I had 21 eggs, which is excellent for my age. After that appointment, I had another about the hormones I was going to inject, and how I had to do it. Everyone's medication plan is different, because everyone's body is different.
On the first day of your menstruation, you write an email to the clinic. They will make an appointment with you for the 3rd day. You will go in for an echo, and you start injecting the first hormone that will stimulate the ripping of multiple eggs. After a few days, you go back to the hospital for another echo; you will start using another hormone that makes sure that you won't ovulate too early because they want to harvest the eggs at the right moment when they are perfectly ripe. You might have to come in several days to see if they are ready yet.
Once the eggs are ready, the man has to produce his sperm in a cup, and they start harvesting the eggs. They do this with a needle they bring in through your vagina into your ovaries, in most countries, they do this under anesthesia. Once the eggs are harvested, they go straight to the lab, and you hear how many eggs you produced.
The next day you hear how many healthy embryos you have and you make an appointment for insemination. The extra embryos can be frozen for later use.
After insemination, you have to wait approximately two weeks before you know if you are pregnant or not. During this time you use hormones to get your body into a regular cycle again and to support a possible pregnancy.
Women that have irregular cycles will use hormones from the start to help them ovulate.
There is no telling how anyone will react to an IVF procedure. It's challenging both physically and mentally. There is a lot of waiting involved and not getting pregnant after all your hard work is maddening. You can also expect to have headaches, hot flashes, mood swings, doubts, anxiety and several other symptoms, but everyone reacts differently to the hormones.
You also need to get over the fact that you have to inject yourself with a needle.
If you are trying to get pregnant you know how hard the 2 weeks are between your ovulation and the moment you can test. When you have been trying for so long and are now doing IVF it's only harder. You have to try to stay distracted and hope for the best. If the test is positive you can make a schedule for an early echo at 6 weeks, if not the whole IVF cycles starts again. If they harvested eggs the month prior you have to wait a month to let your ovaries calm down again.
IVF is very expensive; there are groups for women that share additional medication they no longer need. It's a lengthy and challenging road, but if you want a child, it's worth it. If you feel insecure about doing IVF, you can ask a therapist or doula to support you on your journey. I talk to a therapist every 14 days, to see how I am doing because you can't underestimate a procedure like this.
At the time I'm writing this I'm in my first ICSI cycle, hoping for the best. The chances for ICSI in my age group are approximately 30% per try. and in general ivf has an
25-30% chance of succeeding. It really depends a lot on the clinic though, So if this is something you want to do, do your research before you begin. There are lots of groups for support online and it's really useful to be part of one. You receive so much information and support in those groups. It can really help you through it.
Just a short list of
Fertility treatment: Your options at a glance
Intrauterine insemination (IUI)
In vitro fertilization (IVF)
Intracytoplasmic sperm injection (ICSI)
Gamete intrafallopian transfer (GIFT)
Zygote intrafallopian transfer (ZIFT)
Donor eggs and embryos.
https://ivf-worldwide.com/ is a great site for more information if you are interested in learning about Ivf.
Kim website is. https://miss-mental.com