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Anxiety and 22q It can be challanging having to face anxiety. Jesus is a great comfort when we are in times of trouble. We have to do our part as well. Pray and get our mind set right then use the coping skills and tools Doctors and therapist help given us. I recently have been examing my own anxiety issues and remembering the time of my Being in hospitals also can be tough even tougher when you are a mom who has a child with the same disorder. I've been in and our of doctors offices just like Bella has been while I was trying to find out my stomach issues and getting the diagonses of gasteropparies a damage to the vegas nerve was the root cause.
Nothing is too hard for God to handle and He will take care of us. We just have to keep pushing through our anxiety knowing God will help us and is always by our side "Cast all you anxiety on Him because He cares " 1 Peter 5:7 is a scripture I refer

Someting I have leaned is we have to do things scared any ways and even though we pray we might not hear the answer as soon as we pray. Things time time such as healing and handling big scary diagonses like 22q. I just know that God has our back no matter how awful the outcome turns out sometimes. If you don't belive in God that is okay I'm not hear to prach at you. you might even have a higher power sourse you perfer either way the devil or those thoughts like to sit on top of our shoulders telling us we are worthlese, why bother and then the cycle of depression and fear repeasts it's ulgly pattern. Anxiety is not from God. God is love peroid. Anxiety can not be managed alone it takes a lot of effort for someone with anxiety to do day to day task sometimes. I have a fear of driving on the high ways and taking test and a lot fear of public speaking is one of many my aniexty but finding that taking classes and learning how to cope best has helped. In terms of public speaking going to conferences has helped. I am I a world renounded speaker of course not but I have been sharing my story iwth a group of godly women every Monday night we are more like sisters now we shareed our ups as well as downs as we journey the 12 step program together. It has been 10 years since I had an over doses and today they did a clean tocken but I wasn't sure how long I have been clean for. Clean maning over dosing on my aniexty meds to help take away the anxiety. I did that 10 years ago just after my daughter was born it's not easy to admit on this blog but I'm sick and tired of people in foundations for this disorder not understanding exactly wwhat 22q is like with first hand perosnal experience I'm also a mom to a child with 22q and that makes it that much more are. I have a father and 3 siblings who have 22q and that makes me part of the exclueeded group because I know what 22q is and the experts don't want to be proven wrong. I have nothing to prove to them I jsut want to get the word out about our little known disorder and get the correct resouse and support in place instead of the stima of pills for people who struggle with issues are often looked at as werid with our with out 22q. I'm learning daily with reminds from God's direction how far I have come and I am enjoying where I am going. I was remind that I am in the season of rest and recovery but soon I might be aksed to share my journey with more then just a few close friends of mine. It took a lot of work to see the fearless confident women you see today. I worked on character defects step 7.1 in the recovery book and I went back to depression, anxiety and inpaitence. I remember a lot of the pain I had to endure just to get to this confident fun sometimes sickly from gasteroparies flair ups you all have come to know. I had to dig deep even taken a socail media break to focus on myself. People at first took offence to it becuase they assumed I didn't want to add them as a friend or help but I have a handful of parents I mentor I have my own stuff I had to work on and I'm so glad I did it has closed doors for me had me look deep at old past hurts and hang ups. Making a invetory of people who have hurt me and gone out of their way to sort of even to an extent blanck list me. I have a differnt truth then most ofther moms who have 22q I know the good bad and the ulgly parts of this syndrome and how it effects my own family. I can not give you a guide or a how to map for how you will manage your own issues with 22q. Each person with it is effected differently based on where the deltion is and family history. speaking of family my own parents are the top of this invetory lists then there are other minor supporting caracters who's rolls has helped shape my life. We are a product of our parents weather we agree with this or not My own father has 22q I do as well. He might disown me but that's nothing there's no denying. No matter how much I one day hope to find out I was adopted. I'm not I lookd into it when I was younger. I had outside influences other people who encouraged and support me some were godly women others so far away from god but had great loving supportive hearts. Over the years I have learned so much this past feb I had turned 36 and really have been reflecting on how far I have come along our family has come along. I use a lot of coping methods some even consider werid. One therpist told me to put ice cube in my hand to bring down the level of intensity of the anxiety. I thought they were nuts until I did it and you know my only thought was how cold that ice cube was suddenly what ever I was worried about at the moment settled down to a level from a 10 to a 8. I do many other tricks since and I even have my daughter using coping skills and tools. We have had to miss out on some theraphy sessions due to insurance issues. Bella has medicade back again and we are ready to start with the regular dr visis some more. Dealing with the school and Bella's visits caused some great aniexity 20 absences would put any parent into a panic. I looked up my rights and learned I could have her absences which all of them are excused to be waved as well as the letters the school sends to turancy. I also have to come up with a plan for a totur for Bella so she can get some help when she returns and catches up with out putting stress on the teachers to play catch up. In Micddle school Bella will have a lot more help and I'll have a lot less aniexty over these visits with the specialist. It was nice having a short break and Bella even only just sees one specialist now which is nice to be able to say she has come a long way. Bella used to have Ot Pt and speech on top of seeing a therapist to help her with the adhd and social issues at school. I am glad to say that things are getting better and there is a great plan put into place. Sometimes just knowing the options that are out there plays a big role. Knowing there is options sometimes helps easy aniety like I could continue to have frested about the 2-3 absences a month for Bella and get all worked up in a huff over my own ego or I just take a moment pause reflect on the legal issue at hand which in reality wasn't really an issue. Things are being taken care of and Bella now can be confident attending school with out fear or pressure being placed when she returns to catch up which causes her anxiety and her tummy to get feeling sick which in term causes more missed days of school after she get's sick to her stomach from the stress. now tihngs with her friends have seem to settled down she's moved on to the nicer cooler kinder kids she is doing a lot better being in girls on the run which helps boast her confidence level. I'm so proud of how far she has come. I cam imigine my aniexity as an adult with 22q but Bella being a teenager with 22q amplify that because she also has adhd so somthing on my anxiety level of a 5 could be her anxiety level of a 10 and vise versa. It' not safe to say all of us with 22q have aniexty or skitofrenia. There are just study's that are controled those studies were of people with skitofrenia who had been tested for 22q of course it dosen't take a reocket seicentist to figure out that a common genetic disorer will pop up. If you test people who wear hearing aids or have heart issues or have teeth issues they will also come up with test results in the same way. The Anxiety based awareness prevention based awareness is not key. Knowledge is hope awareness is key. It a lot to say you want to spread awareness but to apply it outside of the 22q community that is something that is hardly ever done unless you are a person who comes into contact with a lot of doctors and become a personal test subect for the medical community to watch and glawk at like Bella annd I have been with out very little credit given for our efforts. I was chatting with a few other adults and this is why we don't speak up often about 22q because the support and awareness isn't out there for digeorge and 22q. end the stigma choose kindness say hi to an adult with 22q we don't bite and you might actually learn something new or I might learn something new and we could help support one another Thanks so much for reading. #motherhood #mommyblogger #momsofinstagram #glassesfashion

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What is 22q in layman's terms?

A friend of mine asked me what is 22q in laymans terms with out the medical mumbo jumbo

I thought I would share a great discription to help everyone else understand because after all that’s what Bella and I have. I also have a father who has 22q, 3 siblings one of whom passed away from it. I have seen the good the bad and the ulgly side of the syndrome. when you get a confirmation and diagonses there are a lot of fears and worries about the unknown.

22q in layman’s terms is a small segment piece of dna that is missing on the q arm band on the 22q chromozone. Much like Down syndrome is an addition chromozone I believe on chromozone 23 correct me if I’m wrong there but 22q is not visable where down syndrome is. 22q is a total total body disorder that affects from head to toes. Your primary doctor will talk with you and might even not be totally understanding of what 22q is. I have run into many ER drs who didn’t know 22q or Digeorge was such a thing. some have heard of Digeorge because it is just briefly touched upon in med school if it is at all.

Genetics specialist is the first kind of you will see they will inform you of the risk if you have a child with 22q there is a 50/50 chance of them passing 22q on to their child. If you have 22q there is the same 50/50 chance of it being passed on. That’s how it occured in our family case.

ALL of us every single last one of us was tested (cost isn’t an issue with genetic testing in Canada where I was born and raised and tested) the doctors here didn’t want to test right at birth for the new born stuff when I had bella at helen devo childrens. I’m glad to have bene able to be one of the few adults they had in the hospital that gave birth to a child with the same genetic disorder. I’m kinda like this freak of nature you can’t stop staring at that is only after I tell you I have 22q. Other wise you would think I was just blessed with a good set of genes that make me appear younger then I am

Digeorge Syndrome is a small piece of dna that effects the total body. There are many other names the doctors who first discovered it had their egos get in the way and the history of people arguing over who knows more still plagues the 22q community as we try to get the same name.. Velocardiofacial syndrome, Digeorge syndrome Digeorge sequence, VCFS, Crainofacial anomally, contourial, cateye syndrome, obz and the list can go on.The main take away is you grasp that it’s on the 22 q arm band a small piece of dna. now some people have it all missing some of fragraments which is another blog posts for another day. I’m just putting what is 22q in layman terms for my readers who asked me to make it simple to understand as I have much more detailed in the what is 22q ? page. infact when you google what is 22q my blog is one of the many that pop up. I’m kinda proud and in aw of that at the same time

This results in develmental issues in the body’s system. Chromozones are our body’s instruction ools and with the small piece of dna missing it’s like our body is a product from Ikea and the last part you need to make it all fit together is missing.

The number one issue is hypocalciuma if your baby is blue chances are it’s 22q. If there are feeing issues chances are it’s 22q if there are heart defects it’s 22q.

All of which Bella and I both have among many others but not all of our issues are a result of 22q you have to play game of genetics 101 and not forget where our roots are from we are products of our parents creation weather we like to think so or not. My fathers and mothers family dna plays a roll in the case of me it was my father that tested positive where my mother did not. A lot of men are the moncho men kind and refuse genetic testes which is why it’s not common for it to come up in familys. There are very few family’s where everyone is tested and only 1 person has it truly only one person has it. My symptoms are so mile dit went unnoticed until I was 23 and getting married it was a last ditch effcort for my family to tell me to get tested as they thought that alone would scare me into not having a family of my own. now for some it does and that’s your personal choice. My self I choose life.

I chose to share my life stories with all of you and my hope is that none of you fear the unknown like I had to face alone.

thanks so much for the support

My 10 year old is chasing down 22q and cerebral palsy running a 5k here is what I learned.

Hello everyone,

 Over the past 10 years, Bella has taught me so much about the world, life and even about myself through her eyes.  

 Bella turned 10 this year, in fact, she just had her double-digit birthday April 27 and that is a huge milestone to achieve in any kid’s life.

As you know Bella is in Girlsontherun a program right here in Sw Michigan in Kalamazoo

Bella was lucky to be able to participate she loves the top, water bottle and the shoes they give as part of the deal when you sign up. There is cost but they have scholarships as well.  I encourage Bella to sign up for things she is interested in to help develop her social skills one of the issues she has with having 22q deletion syndrome.

Most 10-year-old kids are reaching goals and milestones and developing their skills in things they like and dislike such as hobbies, self-expression through fashion and developing a self of self-worth and self-esteem. Bella most favorite past time is starting to strive for independence and driving her mom that's me crazy! while she is starting to enter puberty and learn how to cope and handle living with two different disorders she seems to think she the boss because it is the one thing she can control in a world she has to deal with so much she can not control.

One major issue we deal with daily is 22q11.2 deletion syndrome which I also have and I can have inside first-hand experience to pass on to my daughter. The other disorder Bella has is a mild form of cerebral palsy which I am just learning what it " looks like" I have friends who have children with cerebral palsy but they use a cane or a wheelchair I only know one other person who has a teenage daughter who has mild cp and she does not look like there is anything different just like Bella looks like there is nothing different about her.  I am learning all I can about cerebral palsy with the help of doctors but mostly from people we met. I know our challenge is we are learning how to deal with peers her age who pick up on there is something different about Bella but they can't figure out what usually the sweet ones ask me about Bella and are patient with her and want to be her friend and include her which makes me so grateful that Bella has a small group of friends. Bella struggles with the day to day task of staying focused due to ADHD and issues with things such as homework has been much easier to handle. We do face challenges together hand in hand or side by side I may not always blog or post about every single piece we deal with because this is our journey and have learned that not everyone wants to read about the sad stuff all the time. That's why I am writing about our joys more often than our sorrows because I want to remember the good stuff. I do journal the hard stuff but we have had easier days over the years with fewer doctors visits now that Bella is older we don't see doctors as often as we used to for her. This past year Bella has grown so much we have both been on the verge of tears out of joy, fear and yes even anger with one another as we challenge each other to do our best to overcome our own struggles.

 I can’t say that I don’t pity my poor husband as we discover this journey together and he left scratching his head most days trying to find his footing in our girly midst of sometimes it seems daily power struggles of trying to tell Bella I’m not her friend I’m her parent. Oh, the joys of pre-puberty and now entering puberty at a speeding rate I can’t seem to keep up with the daily challenges all on my own.   I seek help and ask my husband to step in but not sure where we find time after for one another as we struggle to connect from an exhausting day of trying too hard to be the best parents we can be.  If you saw my Facebook post you would see that he starts a new full-time job in Grand Rapids, Mi.  Which means less time for romantic dates and more time for the have to and the daily routines of the day in and day out the lifestyle of parenting.

In the mix of all that goes on around here, Bella needed an outlet a place where she could run and burn off her pint up energy and she found it in girls on the run a program for girls who train together to run a 5k. You read that correctly Bella is training to run a 5k if you are on any social media accounts I have you would have seen the weekly status updates of how many laps Bella did today while this week we are nearing the end we did the first practice 5k. Bella is a fast runner and kept up with the older girls while I lagged behind and helped the kids cross the street I had an idea to write this blog post because I wanted to share a part of our journey and the amazing thing my daughter is doing at 10-year-old with all she has overcome and has to manage she has shown me yet again that there is nothing we can’t achieve. I haven’t run in years but I did attempt to I made it down one street and was huffing and puffing and realizing how out of shape I truly am but she is inspiring me to get healthier.  As Bella grows learns and develops into the wonderful women she is becoming I am seeing challenges we face in a different light.

The one thing I signed Bella up for to help with some of this is girls on the run the doctors suggested to keep Bella's legs stretched out is to have her stay active be it by riding her bike or with the use of running or jogging. Bella has ADHD as another hurdle she manages and all that energy she has no idea what to do with is different it is the focus and centered when she is running. When Bella runs, she says she feels light and free like there isn’t anything she cannot achieve.  When she runs the fears, I have for the future slip away and all the doctors’ visits, sleepless nights and struggles we have overcome are all worth it.
Sometimes It does get Better after all.  

many people don’t know what someone with “mild” cerebral palsy looks like. What do they look like? If it weren’t for medical devices, would anyone be able to tell?

 Did you know cerebral palsy is the most common motor disability in children? It affects approximately three live births out of every 1,000 in the United States. Bella also having a rare genetic that is not as common as cp a different disorder called 22q11.2 deletion syndrome is another disorder on top of cp that seems to amplify the mild form of spastic cerebral palsy that Bella has.  Both are total body disorders to learn more about 22q please check out the what is 22q on my website.
Do you have a person who inspires you in your life to keep pressing on when times are hard? I sure do that’s Bella

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 Bella

Bella has 22q11.2 deletion syndrome and mild form of cerebral palsy and a few other symptoms that combine with 22q .

for more info on what is mild cerebral palsy please visit. http://yourcpf.org/ 

for more information on 22q11.2 deletion please visit http://www.22q.org/

Thank you for reading and helping spread awareness about these two disorders.

If you would like more info just leave a message in on the contact me page.

 

What is life like for an Adult living with 22q vcfs digeorge syndrome?

What life is like living with Velocardiofacial syndrome called 2q11.2 deletion syndrome Digeorge

I was born on February 10 1983. My husband is 11 years older than I am. We met online through a mutual friend 11 years ago and last Feb 23rd we celebrated 11 years being together. Dec 29 we celebrated 8 years of marriage. Husband is 44 and has three teens entering adult hood. Adam and I have an 9-year-old girl named Bella. Just giving detail as my story continues.... it is the numbers that shouldn’t matter that do matter. Let me explain that living with velocardiofacial syndrome, a mild form of it, has its moments that make me wonder often why me? My young appearance is one of the things about the disorder I would like to change.

Adam and I went shopping for clothes for my 16 years old step son. We also picked up a few things for our 9 year old. At check out the cashier, an older lady, looked at me and felt I needed to be informed of my misfortune of looking too young to have given birth to an 9 year old! If her jaw could have hit the floor it would have when I handed the lady the sizes of boys pants and explained who these were for. I think she might have had a heart attack from disbelief or she thought I was making up stories. Then lady notices my husband coming to the register with more items. Cashier lady had a conversation with my husband while he was picking out boy’s clothes earlier and it clearly didn’t face her we were a couple! I was picking up girl clothes on the other end of the store. I wonder why she didn’t feel the need to inform him of how young he looked or even mention how young I looked to him? 

Not only did cashier lady feel the compulsive need to inform me of how I am too young looking to have even been a mom, she was shocked I managed to get married too.... In her good for you tone.... I kept quiet. 

I was rather calm about this moment then I have been in the past when others have said the same thing to me. I can tell you I have been there and done this before... oh I am so tired of it all the time.

Many times different people told me l will appreciate it when I am in my 30s. Here I am not appreciating any of this! Not at all. When does grey hair and wrinkles start? and how long before I start to age? I used to get teased in school too for looking younger.

I also have said something snappy in the past and would have asked for an apology.... I did not say any of those things. Instead the me today at 33 has dealt with others before who felt the compulsive need to inform me of how young I look. I remind myself to relax because I look young and it could be worst... I could always have had no ears to hear this lady.

So…
This time my response to her was: That is how life works! Funny, isn’t it? How I am not formed to fit your image.

I left with the lady to ponder what the ?

I was un effected, I didn't allow it to ruin my day like comments would have in the past. I’m liking this confident me.

Numbers do matter when you have a genetic disorder as an adult. I have 22q velocardofacial syndrome and not everyone I meet needs to be informed of my genetic disorder because it is not what or who I am. I didn't tell her: 'oh it’s my missing chromosome making me look young...'. I wasn't ever going to run into this lady again. I don't plan on returning to the store either.

I blog and help others but I personally am not branded with 22q across my forehead. I am so much more! 

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I am passionate about helping others who struggle with 22q, here is why!

 

  Hello everyone,


22q11.2 deletion, VCFS syndrome and DiGeorge syndrome is a disorder with many names and caused by a small missing piece of the 22nd chromosome. Depending on where the location of the deletion is on the tiny missing portion of chromosome, 22q can affect every system in the human body, and can be the cause of nearly 200 mild to serious health and developmental issues in children AND ADULTS. I use the adults in all caps because every foundation associated with this syndrome only focuses on raising awareness for children.

 
Although that’s great for parents like me who have children with 22q, it’s difficult for adults like me who have 22q to find support. No two people with this disorder have all of the same symptoms as the next person. It can affect young and old. Testing for this in children as well as the other members of their families is needed to get treatment for the symptoms.

 
There is no cure. We can only treat the symptoms. I am passionate about this because when I was first diagnosed, it was my breaking point. I reached rock bottom and had such a hard time accepting the disorder because I didn’t have any outward symptoms that are typical with the disorder and I have no heart issues.

 
As you can imagine, finding resources and trying to discover how this disorder affects me as an adult is challenging, and can leave a person feeling overwhelmed during the diagnoses process. It’s the number one reason most adults who do have children with 22q don’t get tested themselves. What’s the point if there isn’t support out there for us adults who have it?

 
I was lucky enough to connect with other adults online, but the online support is just that—online and not in real life. Sure we talk on the phone, but to be able to see the person in the flesh would be easier to help each other understand what’s going on with one another. I don’t wish for anyone to have to endure the process of this alone and isolated like I did.

 
My goal is to change that balance between adults who have special needs vs. parents who have children with special needs but don’t have the disorder themselves. I want to help parents have compassion and support for their children and the adults because one day their child will grow up into adult hood. Despite what popular media says, 22q is not always a death sentence.

 
My other goal is to offer hope and help encourage someone else going through the same struggles. I also hope to find support myself as a mom and adult with 22q one day. One of my most recent goals is to make congress aware of struggles families with rare disorders face, in order to help keep the services that are needed. Services such as new born screenings and parental screenings of 22q11.2 deletion because there is a huge wave of groups out there trying to prevent 22q babies from even being born. Could you imigine life with out Bella and I ?

I hope to connect with others who have children with this disorder and together help focus on issues that are effecting not only children but adults who also have 22q.

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