Why does Bella needs all of her appointments every single Tuesday?

Update: it has been ages since I did a life update

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Tuesday are our days we take Bella to physical therapy and psychology.  We sometimes also see other specialist on the same day. Last month we ordered Bella's shoe inserts they are called chipmunks they are a plastic insert we put into her shoes and she wears them all the time. This is part of the treatment for Bella's leg pains that come from having a mild form of Cerebral Palsy. cp for short. Bella has digeorge 22q11.2 deletion syndrome and this is just one of the many ways we keep her as active and healthy as she appears.  Spring break we will pick up Bell's shoe inserts and she is excited about them for now. They stay in her shoes like dr scholls inserts. Her shoes have high arch and are new balance with insert put in. Bella loves running and is excited girls on the run has started up again. 22 laps around the gym every Monday and Wednesday. 

we had Bella's occupational therapy assessment and we have great news.... Bella does not need occupational therapy.  The other stuff will come once we are better able to handle her adhd both emotional and physical adhd and panic attacks a lot better. Bella does get tired more and she is on a mussel relaxer for the leg spasms at night.  We are to continue with physical therapy as that seems to be helping Bella so much with her leg pains from the mild cerebral palsy spasms.

For the psychology part of her appointments seems our girl is having panic attacks the joys of entering puberty and works herself up into a temp of 99.9. right down to tummy feeling sick and while everything her mamma has syncope.

  Seems on Fridays the school calls us and Bella has migraines and no one can tell what is causing them. Bella says the loud kids and sounds in her class but they are no different any other time of the week. I think it is something else all together. We will get down to it and figure it out even if I have to order a smiley face button spy cam to get to whats distressing her. 

Bella needs more self esteem building because she has been told how much she can not achieve at school vs what she can achieve at school. There is also a tight group of girls that Bella is not apart of. She is friends with two other kids who refuse to take part in the clicks which I am so proud of her for standing up for herself. There was a few things that come up where she was picked on by some other kids who claim they were just playing a little game with her but that worked it self out. Bella also does not like how loud the bus becomes. Kids in her classroom seem to be a little to loud for her to handle. We also have some issues where we have taken her to busy restaurant or concerts and the loud sounds bother her there too.

 

Other then the typical day to day stuff of routines and normal structure there has not been much to blog about in terms of updating friends. I did get a new couch and a dslr cannon camera that I am loving. I will have a gallery of my photos soon for all of you to check out

Thank you to everyone who has asked how Bella has been doing and wondering where my updates have gone. Over time Bella updates have been less and less and we are moving forward in the right directions in all areas of Bella's life creating that balance I have longed for since she was little.

oh and we are also getting a dog :) I will share photos of our new friend once we get him home. he is a rescue dog from the animal shelter. I can not wait to share him with all of you and introduce you to our new pet. The godlfish are still alive and going strong. I never realized how long gold fish live when you actually take care of them. The goldfish have been with us for the past 3 years.

 

The need for Self-Discipline

Hello everyone, it is nice to see all of you!

Have you ever felt like you were on the outside looking in?

My name is Amanda Ripsam I am 34 years old and look younger than I appear.

I am often told I look no older than 15 and too young looking to have children at the age the kids are. I live in Otsego, Michigan.  I have 4 kids, three out High School and a 10-year-old daughter named Bella. I share mine and my daughter‘s adventures living with 22q on my site mommiesquietplace.com.

I was originally born and raised in Toronto, Ontario, Canada.

I have a unique perspective living with 22q11.2 deletion syndrome as it also affects my daughter, 3 of siblings and my father. There are over 180 conditions that can appear in a person who has 22q from heart issues to learning delays and all in-between. There is no cure and it is a managed condition. I was diagnosed with 22q when I was 21 years old.

Today I am 34 and I am a parent mentor and special needs advocate and have my own website that I use to help walk others so they are not feeling alone and isolated like I was feeling. I formed my own tribe. When I couldn’t fit in with anyone else tribe!

Living life with a rare genetic disorder is like running a 5k race! Recently I shared on social media that Bella my 10-year-old with 22q and cerebral palsy and myself ran into the girls on the run 5k race in Kalamazoo, Michigan, I posted at check in points on my website as my daughter left me in the dust running as hard and as fast as she can with her coaches.

With 22q there are no coaches!

My goal for my ministry is coaching others through life with special needs children who face challenges like 22q.  My passion is mentoring other people so they don’t have to walk an unknown medical mystery journey without a coach cheering them on!

My training for 22q was my own journey and watching my siblings endure life with 22q and my 6-year-old brother passing away from complications of this disorder. I was well informed and trained before I had my own child.

Climbing the hills of the battle against 22q and beating this illness one symptom at a time often makes life feel as though you have been clawing your way running up that steep hill at the 2-mile marker during a 5k race. I am sharing about our race because even with Bella having a secondary disorder called cerebral palsy I am enduring and persevering through our struggles with this disorder while overcoming other challenges our family faces day to day.  I can describe that our adventures are like the feeling it feels after the 2nd mile in the race and you just have to keep on going no matter how exhausted and jelly like your legs feel. 

To get to the 5k finish line you have to push through being worn down. 22q can make you feel worn out and burned out. Learning about any medical condition can and will take it toll on a person physically mentally and spiritually.  I share on my website how I try to balance life one step at a time.

Life with 22q is just like the 5k race.   Just when you think you’re almost there at the second mile you look up and see you are not done yet, but you look down and see how far you have come!

  This passage has been a source of strength and has helped get through this journey.

1 Corinthians 9:24New International Version (NIV)

The Need for Self-Discipline

This is the verse that has helped me keep on pressing on

24 Do you not know that in a race all the runners run, but only one gets the prize? Run in such a way as to get the prize.



 

Mom and daughter crosses the finish line their first 5k

Hello everyone,

As a thank you to everyone who cheered us on during Bellas girls on the run 5k here is us finishing the 5k race and the video. Bella ran the entire race.  Video 1 and video 2 is of me finishing the run I did a run and walk combo.

 

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=FVzYM6NhmkcBella finish

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=O9n8EukKTQc MandyFinish

 

 

Thank you to everyone who has cheered us on

Love Bella and Amanda

 

 

 

 

 

My 10 year old is chasing down 22q and cerebral palsy running a 5k here is what I learned.

Hello everyone,

 Over the past 10 years, Bella has taught me so much about the world, life and even about myself through her eyes.  

 Bella turned 10 this year, in fact, she just had her double-digit birthday April 27 and that is a huge milestone to achieve in any kid’s life.

As you know Bella is in Girlsontherun a program right here in Sw Michigan in Kalamazoo

Bella was lucky to be able to participate she loves the top, water bottle and the shoes they give as part of the deal when you sign up. There is cost but they have scholarships as well.  I encourage Bella to sign up for things she is interested in to help develop her social skills one of the issues she has with having 22q deletion syndrome.

Most 10-year-old kids are reaching goals and milestones and developing their skills in things they like and dislike such as hobbies, self-expression through fashion and developing a self of self-worth and self-esteem. Bella most favorite past time is starting to strive for independence and driving her mom that's me crazy! while she is starting to enter puberty and learn how to cope and handle living with two different disorders she seems to think she the boss because it is the one thing she can control in a world she has to deal with so much she can not control.

One major issue we deal with daily is 22q11.2 deletion syndrome which I also have and I can have inside first-hand experience to pass on to my daughter. The other disorder Bella has is a mild form of cerebral palsy which I am just learning what it " looks like" I have friends who have children with cerebral palsy but they use a cane or a wheelchair I only know one other person who has a teenage daughter who has mild cp and she does not look like there is anything different just like Bella looks like there is nothing different about her.  I am learning all I can about cerebral palsy with the help of doctors but mostly from people we met. I know our challenge is we are learning how to deal with peers her age who pick up on there is something different about Bella but they can't figure out what usually the sweet ones ask me about Bella and are patient with her and want to be her friend and include her which makes me so grateful that Bella has a small group of friends. Bella struggles with the day to day task of staying focused due to ADHD and issues with things such as homework has been much easier to handle. We do face challenges together hand in hand or side by side I may not always blog or post about every single piece we deal with because this is our journey and have learned that not everyone wants to read about the sad stuff all the time. That's why I am writing about our joys more often than our sorrows because I want to remember the good stuff. I do journal the hard stuff but we have had easier days over the years with fewer doctors visits now that Bella is older we don't see doctors as often as we used to for her. This past year Bella has grown so much we have both been on the verge of tears out of joy, fear and yes even anger with one another as we challenge each other to do our best to overcome our own struggles.

 I can’t say that I don’t pity my poor husband as we discover this journey together and he left scratching his head most days trying to find his footing in our girly midst of sometimes it seems daily power struggles of trying to tell Bella I’m not her friend I’m her parent. Oh, the joys of pre-puberty and now entering puberty at a speeding rate I can’t seem to keep up with the daily challenges all on my own.   I seek help and ask my husband to step in but not sure where we find time after for one another as we struggle to connect from an exhausting day of trying too hard to be the best parents we can be.  If you saw my Facebook post you would see that he starts a new full-time job in Grand Rapids, Mi.  Which means less time for romantic dates and more time for the have to and the daily routines of the day in and day out the lifestyle of parenting.

In the mix of all that goes on around here, Bella needed an outlet a place where she could run and burn off her pint up energy and she found it in girls on the run a program for girls who train together to run a 5k. You read that correctly Bella is training to run a 5k if you are on any social media accounts I have you would have seen the weekly status updates of how many laps Bella did today while this week we are nearing the end we did the first practice 5k. Bella is a fast runner and kept up with the older girls while I lagged behind and helped the kids cross the street I had an idea to write this blog post because I wanted to share a part of our journey and the amazing thing my daughter is doing at 10-year-old with all she has overcome and has to manage she has shown me yet again that there is nothing we can’t achieve. I haven’t run in years but I did attempt to I made it down one street and was huffing and puffing and realizing how out of shape I truly am but she is inspiring me to get healthier.  As Bella grows learns and develops into the wonderful women she is becoming I am seeing challenges we face in a different light.

The one thing I signed Bella up for to help with some of this is girls on the run the doctors suggested to keep Bella's legs stretched out is to have her stay active be it by riding her bike or with the use of running or jogging. Bella has ADHD as another hurdle she manages and all that energy she has no idea what to do with is different it is the focus and centered when she is running. When Bella runs, she says she feels light and free like there isn’t anything she cannot achieve.  When she runs the fears, I have for the future slip away and all the doctors’ visits, sleepless nights and struggles we have overcome are all worth it.
Sometimes It does get Better after all.  

many people don’t know what someone with “mild” cerebral palsy looks like. What do they look like? If it weren’t for medical devices, would anyone be able to tell?

 Did you know cerebral palsy is the most common motor disability in children? It affects approximately three live births out of every 1,000 in the United States. Bella also having a rare genetic that is not as common as cp a different disorder called 22q11.2 deletion syndrome is another disorder on top of cp that seems to amplify the mild form of spastic cerebral palsy that Bella has.  Both are total body disorders to learn more about 22q please check out the what is 22q on my website.
Do you have a person who inspires you in your life to keep pressing on when times are hard? I sure do that’s Bella

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 Bella

Bella has 22q11.2 deletion syndrome and mild form of cerebral palsy and a few other symptoms that combine with 22q .

for more info on what is mild cerebral palsy please visit. http://yourcpf.org/ 

for more information on 22q11.2 deletion please visit http://www.22q.org/

Thank you for reading and helping spread awareness about these two disorders.

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